I have been nervous to start this Trait Project. I know that seems silly because this one is about my husband and it should be the easiest to write.
It’s the hardest because he means so much to me that no string of words put together seem to be adequate enough for him. I am terrified to not do this incredible man the justice he deserves. So here it goes, my attempt to tell you about the most wonderful human I have ever met.
Jared James-Robert Ribble.
He came into my life on June 1, 2008. This is the day he responded to a message I sent, to what I believed was the band he played for, but the message went to him personally. It’s a funny and very unlikely story. I never imagined I would meet the man I would marry in an “unlikely” way, but even to this day, I think about how we met and am in awe I share my life with this man.
When Jared came into my world, I was a skeptic and he was a bit wounded. He was healing from the end of his first marriage and I was beginning a new life in a new city where I carried a mindset that it would take a long time to find the right guy to spend my life with.
I thought it was terrible timing, but as I look back, God brought us together to tie up the loose ends of the respective things we were going through.
Jared would never be completely healed until God brought him the woman He made specifically for him.
I would never stop being skeptical of every guy I met until God brought me a man whose traits stood above all others.
We would never be complete until we met each other.
I could write an entire book on all of Jared’s traits. To spare you the time, I will focus on one that I see in every moment of his being. One that I love so much.
The first conversation that Jared and I had, he asked me a million questions about myself. He was so interested in everything about me – what I loved, what I hated, where I have lived, what I had studied, what I want to study, where I want to live, how I spend my time- On and on. He asked millions of questions.
I honestly had never in my life felt like anyone had taken such interest in me before. I don’t know that I had ever answered that many questions about myself.
I have noticed over the course of my life with Jared that when he meets someone new, he always has a ton of questions for them. Sometimes people are intimidated by this and feel interrogated. Most of the time, people are as taken back as I was because someone they just met is taking such vast interest in who they are and who they want to be.
I have the special honor of being his fan – with this comes the unique privilege of being in his audience. I get to watch him be himself on the daily and I just love my seat in his story.
Now, when we meet someone new, I know the canon of questions is coming and I sit back and get ready to watch him be great.
This new person doesn’t yet know that they have met someone who will make them feel like they are the only one at the table that matters in that moment. I love to see this unfold and watch their “taken back” emotions turn to curiosity and then gratefulness.
Every human on this planet should have a chance to be questioned by Jared – to feel the way he will make you feel at the end of a conversation.
Everyone deserves to be known- to be sought after- to be valued.
Jared loves when I anticipate something he loves or wants – such as being in the kitchen cooking together and I grab what he needs and hand it to him before he even asks for it. He will smile and say, “It’s so good to be known.”
Babe, you make everyone you meet feel known- feel worthy of attention.
Girls in their twenties can often be strewn through relationships that make them feel the complete opposite of known and valued and worthy.
You came into my little world and made me feel like the queen.
Every day you find moments to show me that my opinion matters- that my feelings matter- that who I want to be and who I am is more than enough.
You have not only shown me, but told me, that God has made my place in this world so spectacular and that no one can fill the shoes God made for me.
What a man you are. What an encourager you are. What perfection you are to me.
I pray that our boys take this trait from you. I pray that they meet people and their curiosity spurs them to ask questions so that no one feels they are falling through the cracks in this world. I want everyone they encounter to feel that they are leaving conversations with our boys feeling more known and more important than they ever have.
You have given me a ton of gifts in this life already, but one of the greatest is that I am KNOWN. Who God made me to be – how the clay of my existence was formed in God’s hands- you have shown me that who I am is one of the most precious gifts to this universe.
No girl could ask for more.
I love you with everything that I am and everything that I will ever be.